Ain't Gotta Lie to Kick It

In high school, my best friend and I quoted that one all the time.

I re-read a few of my old posts tonight, and I found this passage. Still rings true :)

"....The Player, the Genuinely-Good Guy, and the Good-Confused Guy. The player usually just puts it out there right from the start; I'm not about trying to have a serious relationship, I'm just trying to have a good time, etc. The Genuinely-Good Guy is the one that gets over-looked. Think about the cute, fun, funny and pretty much all around great guy that you know that you just don't want even though you can't articulate why. The Good-Confused Guy, however, is a good guy at heart, but he is - as the name implies - confused. He is unclear about what he wants - a relationship or dating, distance or no distance, you or someone else, etc. This guy is the most dangerous because, since he's a good guy, you feel safe with him; you don't expect a good person to hurt you for no clear reason. Also, this guy, since there's good in him, makes you hold out hope that you wouldn't hold out for a 'player'; he'll get over his confusion, he'll [stop sending mixed signals] etc. The fact of the matter is that you never know what a confused good guy is going to do." Because they don't even know.

The problem is sometimes you don't even know you're dealing w/ a confused one. Especially if you're confused yourself. And sometimes The Player pretends to be Good just to throw you off.

So what's the solution? The Genuinely Good guy? Ha, no. Go for the obvious player. He knows he ain't gotta lie to kick it. You know exactly what to expect ;-)